When parents have a second child, what do they say to their first child? If the lesson there is to share, why does it not apply to other relationships?
But a pair bond is different, it is intimacy at a different level.
Or is it just a practical matter of child rearing requiring a stable long term parental relationships and let the parents' emotions be damned?
Then there is the time element, the bonding that comes with shared experiences over time. Is romantic love the glue that initially keep couples together long enough for the passage of time and accumulation of common battle scars to take over as the curing agent for this glue to be permanent?
Is it our unwillingness to share that put us into a compromise that is a monogamous relationship?
"If you love somebody, set them free....." so goes a popular song, true?Can we maintain our sanity if there is no one in this world that will accept us unconditionally? To think that we can always be replaced?
Can we make an alliance agreement with another to support each other during these moments of weakness so that we are stronger as a whole?
Even if the other is not the best match alliance partner, it is an improvement over dealing with our weakness on our own.
Intimacy is great and who wants nosy neighbours?
ReplyDeleteIf my neighbour asks me too many questions about how to remain intimate with her hubby, or how to raise her kids, it may seem out of place.
The private is political has been a long standing phrase for so called feminists/activists. But nothing stirs up heated arguments more than politics or religion, which is often reflected in intimate partnerships. To separate such ideologies does little good to help peoples who may be vulnerable in intimate relationships.
So yes its good to have close relationships, and to bond with others, but its a matter of personal choice and a social and political system that is concerned with providing choices to peoples who can consent and contribute to intimate partnerships.
Communities are built by individuals
Vanessa